Did you know
that only two types of animal life actually outlive their fertility? Only
humans and killer whales live longer than their ability to have offspring.
Chimpanzees, the closest animal to a human, for example, usually die before
their 50s, when they are still fertile.
Part of this is
modern health care. Not only do we live
longer, but we also have a much better chance at surviving infancy. But I think there is more at play than just
better medicine.
The grandmother hypothesis is a theory
to explain how a long post-fertile period (up to one third of a woman's
lifespan) could confer an evolutionary advantage. One anthropologist
at the University of Utah was studying a hunter-gathering group in Africa,
thinking that she would uncover the origins of hunting. Then, she noticed the many older women who
seemed to be always busy, either collecting roots and plants, preparing meals,
and taking care of babies and young children. It turned out that these old women
played an important role in providing nutrition for the group, as much as the
young male hunters and fighters. Much more important and crucial than food,
though, was the role these older women played in the raising of their
grandchildren.
Despite
countless biological similarities, there are obviously many differences both
biologically and societally. Not only do we live much longer than other
mammals, our kids depend on their parents and grandparents much longer as
well. Heck, I know I still depend on my
parents for support and love to this day!
By the time a
chimpanzee is 7 years old, it’s gathering as much food as it will eat. But even
in hunter/gatherer societies, human children pull their weight only when they
are teenagers. Why would our babies be helpless for so long? That long
immaturity helps make us so smart: It gives us a long amount of protected,
nourished, and sheltered time to grow large brains and to use those brains to
learn about the world we live in. Human beings can learn to adapt to an
exceptionally wide variety of environments, and those skills of learning and
culture develop in the early years of life.
Because it
takes so long for us humans to mature—and it seems endless when one is dealing
with a teenager!—mothers need help. And
that’s where grandmothers can help and provide such crucial assistance. Believe it or not, in some hunter-gatherer
groups, grandmothers could "relactate," actually producing milk after
having already gone through menopause.
The
"Grandmother Hypothesis" proposes that grandmotherhood developed
directly as a result of our long childhood. In fact, grandmothers are exactly
what allowed our long childhood, and the learning and culture that go with it,
to emerge. In mathematical models, you can see what happens if, at first, just
a few women live past menopause and use that time to support their
grandchildren (who, of course, share their genes). The "grandmother
trait" can rapidly take hold and spread. And the more grandmothers
contribute, the longer the period of immaturity can be.
My mother,
affectionately known as “GG”—Grandma Giebler—to my children, makes so much
possible in our lives. She is Edwin,
Estelle, and Emerin’s primary babysitter.
She is the one my kids go to when they really, really, really want a
buttered slice of bread for a snack. She
is their favorite place to ‘escape’ to for a sleepover. Well, that’s actually a tie. “Nana’s House” (Ellie’s parents’ house) is
also high on their list. And the kids,
especially the older two, definitely keep an eye on the calendar and the clock,
making sure their “GG time” is evenly balanced.
Ellie and I are
so thankful and blessed to have our children’s grandparents so close to our
home, and it’s always fun to see some of my patients bring their grandkids
along. In fact, sometimes if mom and dad
aren’t available to bring their child to the office, it’s Grandma who does the
driving, and I get to meet her as well.
Multi-generational bonding is a true blessing for us, and I know so many
other families who do not take it for granted.
While it’s only
the “Grandmother’s Hypothesis”, and
not the "Grandmother's Law",
I know that this theory is proven true in my life on a weekly basis.
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